4 Secrets of People with High Social Value

Social Value

Most often, it’s movie stars and sports superstars who have a very high social value. A short-cut to assuming the persona of someone with a high social value is to simply pretend that you’re James Bond, Angelina Jolie or the hottest football, baseball or basketball star at the moment. Silly as it may sound, doing this gets your brain into the right mode to make you aware of how you behave differently than normal. It can be useful for being more conscious of your behavior. However, you need to have a deeper understanding of social value to be able to implement it as a permanent part of your personality. High social value is most often attractive, but not always. In this text, I will explain why.

1. You Are Non-Reactive

Being non-reactive means not reacting emotionally to how others interact with you. If someone yells at you or accuses you of something, you remain emotionally indifferent. Not only are you non-reactive to other people, but also to the situation. If you are in a stressful environment, you stay calm. If problems occur, you do not become bitter or angry.

2. You Solve Problems

Related to being non-reactive, rather than merely complaining about problems that occur, you accept and solve them. For instance, let’s say you’re travelling and it turns out you just missed your flight home. A common reaction would be to become frustrated or sad, perhaps hoping some kind of miracle might take place so that everything turns out well. A high value person on the other hand shows no reaction to what has happened. This person takes the lead in a group in a natural way. He or she approaches the problem in a non-emotional way, and proactively does whatever it takes to solve it.

3. You are a Leader

High social value people are the leaders of their group. They obtain this position naturally and easily. This means you can’t and shouldn’t try to  force yourself into having a certain position in the group. Becoming a leader is a process that should take place naturally – If you act in the right way, people will want you to lead them. A good way to become a leader is to stay non reactive. Following evolutionary examples, a non-reactive person is perceived as a safe choice as a leader, because their behavior won’t be unpredictable.

4. You act Self-Confident

High value people don’t appear nervous, but instead have a high level of self confidence. This can be accomplished in different ways. One method is to build up a confidence over years of life experience. Another way is to act in a way that appears relaxed and calm.

Mistakes when Increasing Social Value

There is a big danger involved with trying to increase social value. High value people risk being perceived as arrogant or obnoxious. Therefore, the more high value you become the more kind towards others you must become as well. A kind, high value person easily becomes popular, such as George Clooney or Paul Newman. A less kind and considerate high value person can instead become disliked by many, because they’re perceived as selfish and self-serving. One example of this is Donald Trump. Your social value amplifies your behavior.

Practicing high value and kindness is a win/win. You will enjoy becoming more popular among others, and others will enjoy being around you as well.

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12 responses to “4 Secrets of People with High Social Value”

  1. f1kat says :

    This is a really good post. Easy to understand, yet thought provoking. We have thousands of thoughts per day, yet your post shows that by becoming a little more self-aware we can control those loess desirable impulsive ones.

  2. Michelle Moloney King says :

    It’s all about staying calm and therefore predictable. Personally, I can’t stand it when people freak out and run about squawking about their problems. Just do something about it. Chill out and do something.

    Life is about the verb and not the noun.

  3. VRNR says :

    Spam can be defined in two ways. Either a comment that is out of context (of a blog or a post) or something that is without value. By the first definition, what led me here could be regarded as spam. But by the second definition, I found this to be thoughtful, interesting, insightful and true.
    So even thought it might’ve been spam in some regard (whether unintentional) will still give it a like.

    • olivierlehe says :

      Thanks very much for your comment on my comment. My target is not to spam but to see blogs as yours, very interesting on poems and to add some links to inter-connect elements, the ones with others, as neurons inter-connected to millions of others. The meta-intelligence of Gaia in there.

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